Shah Rukh Khan · Commencement Address
On Madness, Fear, and Living Yours
Madness of the particularly nice or romantic kind is an absolute prerequisite to a happy and successful life.
If you ever find yourself cheated of all your money and sleeping on a grave, do not fear, a miracle is near,
either that or a ghost.
Don’t let your fears become boxes that enclose you. Open them out, feel them and turn
them into the greatest courage you are capable of. I promise you, nothing will go wrong. But if you live by
your fears, everything that can possibly go wrong will go wrong and you won’t even have done the Funky
Chicken. All the planning in the world won’t take you where you want to go. And it’s fine not to
know what you want to be twenty years from now. Most of those who had it all figured out became bankers
anyway.
It’s OK to be confused. Confusion is the route to all the clarity in the world.
Don’t worry about it too much and don’t ever take yourself seriously enough to be so clear about
your own ideas that you stop respecting other people’s.
Give of yourself to others. And while you’re at it, make sure you realize that you
aren’t doing anyone any favors by being kind to them. It’s all just to make you feel that sneaky
little twinge that comes from being utterly pleased with yourself.
When life hits you with all the force of its resplendent rage, the Rolls isn’t going to give you
comfort. A friend’s grace will, and if you can’t find resolution as easily as you would like to,
please don’t panic. Everything evolves as you go along. Even disasters eventually resolve themselves.
All the names you give yourself, or those that others call you, are just labels. You are not defined by them
no matter how flattering or uncomplimentary they are. What defines you genuinely is your heart.
Whatever it is that is pulling you back, it’s not going away unless you stand up and start forging your
own path with all your might in the opposite direction.
Stop whining and start moving, so to speak. Sadness and happiness have the same quality of transience. Life
is a balanced exchange of one with the other.
Don’t attach yourself to either, they’re both going to change with the same
certitude. Take them with the ephemeral spirit of their impermanence and manage them with a healthy
dose of good humor.
Love. Love people, love the world around you, love animals and birds, and big cities and mountains, love
dreams, love life, love your work, your friends and your enemies.
Most importantly, my friends; love yourselves. Know that your heart is limitless. Love is the only excuse you
will ever have to call yourself special.
Don’t forget where you came from and who you really are. It ought to be the compass by which you
navigate through life’s vicissitudes.
Study hard. Work hard. Play harder. Don’t be bound by rules…don’t hurt anybody and never
ever live somebody else’s dream. In the words of Bob Marley…at the end everything is gonna be
alright.
What defines you genuinely is your heart.